CONFIDENTIALITY AND YOU

This write-up is a very blunt piece, and as such, whoever reads this and feels guilty is advised to pick a lesson instead of an offence.
if you do feel offended, one thing becomes sure:
That 'you are guilty of this.'*wink*

Here it goes...
With some people, you are safe and with some others you are definitely not.
There are things you Just have to keep to yourself or find a very distance person to talk to if you must talk about it (someone that you may not see for the next six months or even a year). This way, they won't have time to dwell on your conversation plus time will blow some memory away... *lol*

Truth be told:
Its better to go to Radio Nigeria and announce yourself than confiding in some kind of people because they will broadcast the matter (like gospel) until it reaches the end of the world, starting with Just one person (as usual).

Confidence should be confidence, whether You are single or married. There is no justifiable reason why anyone should share what has been discussed with them in confidence with whom-so-ever. If you have given your word to hold something in confidence, please try to the best of your ability to do so.

It becomes a bridge of trust if you go ahead to share with some other person(s), even if the person in question is your mother, father or even your spouse.
These people are not spirit, they are fellow humans and If at all you become tempted to share that which you have promise to hold in confidence, please seek permission first (that's courtesy).
This is because assuming the fellow wanted them to know, they would have told them themselves.*check-mate*

And the truth is that if a man has shared someone else's issue with his wife, trust women... they will always find a way (like Ronaldo finding his way in the eighteen of his opponent to Score a goal) to let the person know that they have heard too. They will begin to throw unnecessary words into every conversations that do not require it.

To a very large extent, most men are more reserved than women in terms of holding things in confidence. It's just that some other men will open up if their spouses are good at cajoling or threatening them. # Truth
Some women can hold in confidence 'if' they already have it as a life-style to be confidential. For an example, I know some women who I can even recommend other people to.

Bottom line:
Be the kind of person that others can share things with, without reserve and go to sleep without nursing the fear of the matter discussed being in circulation.

Just as the saying goes... A broken trust is like a crumpled paper, no matter how much you try to straighten it, it can never get back to its original state.

Keep this in mind:
You can change a person's life for good only 'if' they let you IN.