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The dictionary defines love in several ways, which makes it complicating to ‘think’ about.
· Agape is unconditional love. It is love by "choice" even if you are not pleased. A good example is "God loves us with our faults".
· Philia is charity or brotherly love, guided by our likes or our healthy or unhealthy needs and desires. This is why Philadelphia is called the "City of Brotherly Love".
· Storge is the word for family love and the physical show of "affection", the need for physical touch. Sometimes it's the love between exceptional friends
Eros is the physical "sexual" desire, intercourse. It is the root word of erotic, anderoticism. (which off course breeded by lust or infatuation).
I guess, you'll want to ask yourself
'which of the above 'kind-of-love' will be better given & which would i prefer to be expressed towards me?'
This is because true love is like a seed that grows to become so strongly rooted & cannot be uprooted, but will only reduce in growth game.
This is due to the fact that it will no longer be watered, as a result of loss/divided attention or deliberate suppression.
Love and dating are two different things.
1. let go of any hurt, you don't need it; One person can not speak for every other person and so do not let that one person affect the way you treat others and even themselves. it blinds you to better opportunities because hurt holds a better part of you when you keep nursing it.
2. Determine to do it right this time; be real (be yourself), patient, kind, understanding, forgiving, drop the ego/pride, apologies and accept your fault where you need to and don't hammer on the other person's weakness, instead see how you can help them overcome those weaknesses.
3. Make sure your motive is right ( if you don't or are not ready for a long-term relationship - marriage, remain friends and do not go beyond that point).
4. before you go into that new relationship, make sure that feeling is true and not tied to any material or physical thing.
5. lookout for danger signals; Is h/she aggressive, tell lies, make you do things you aren't comfortable doing, does he love God because until a man loves and fears God, he can never know what true love means.
6. See him or her as a part of your family; you forgive your family easily and treat them nicely. you consider them in almost every of the decision that you want to make and give them the best you can.
7. Even if the next relationship doesn't work out as you want, don't hate or feel terrible, keep loving but don't get caught-up in the game of 'past' because the best still lies ahead.
Dating on the other hand is 'setting out time to spend with someone for a particular reason'( my definition)
For the sake of this write-up, dating will be looked at as 'an agreement between two people who are emotional attached to each other with an intention to walk through life together' ( my definition)
hmm!
Here we go...
Agape and Storge are best target if we want to have a stable-enough love-life.
People get it wrong at the beginning when they make 'Eros' the basis of their relationship, which eventually becomes the path that leads to breakups. leaving them feeling shattered, unsettled and lost.
When you stop dating people, and the love was right, you can't stop loving them just because you have gone apart for whatever reasons.Yes!
hmm!
Here we go...
Agape and Storge are best target if we want to have a stable-enough love-life.
People get it wrong at the beginning when they make 'Eros' the basis of their relationship, which eventually becomes the path that leads to breakups. leaving them feeling shattered, unsettled and lost.
When you stop dating people, and the love was right, you can't stop loving them just because you have gone apart for whatever reasons.Yes!
This is because true love is like a seed that grows to become so strongly rooted & cannot be uprooted, but will only reduce in growth game.
This is due to the fact that it will no longer be watered, as a result of loss/divided attention or deliberate suppression.
Love and dating are two different things.
you can love someone you aren't dating and you can date someone you don't love.
how do we handle this and make it right?
Solution that works
Solution that works
1. let go of any hurt, you don't need it; One person can not speak for every other person and so do not let that one person affect the way you treat others and even themselves. it blinds you to better opportunities because hurt holds a better part of you when you keep nursing it.
2. Determine to do it right this time; be real (be yourself), patient, kind, understanding, forgiving, drop the ego/pride, apologies and accept your fault where you need to and don't hammer on the other person's weakness, instead see how you can help them overcome those weaknesses.
3. Make sure your motive is right ( if you don't or are not ready for a long-term relationship - marriage, remain friends and do not go beyond that point).
4. before you go into that new relationship, make sure that feeling is true and not tied to any material or physical thing.
5. lookout for danger signals; Is h/she aggressive, tell lies, make you do things you aren't comfortable doing, does he love God because until a man loves and fears God, he can never know what true love means.
6. See him or her as a part of your family; you forgive your family easily and treat them nicely. you consider them in almost every of the decision that you want to make and give them the best you can.
7. Even if the next relationship doesn't work out as you want, don't hate or feel terrible, keep loving but don't get caught-up in the game of 'past' because the best still lies ahead.
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