Let's be Frank! Part I

Not to judge, nor to condemn but to redirect & enlighten.

Sexual Relationship for the unmarried is WRONG.

Yap, it is. Plain truth!

& so how do we handle this?
Come with me>>>

Singles of our times find it difficult to tell someone what they are truly experiencing because they don't want to loose the person whom they are in a relationship with & would rather want to do every & anything possible to keep the relationship going.

U see, no matter how smart, intelligent, high "I.Q'd" & clever you are, you still need a confidant. Someone you can trust, share things with & be totally open to.
It mustn't be your age-group or your click but could be a spiritual & physically matured person & hope I didn't forget to include that the person should be open-minded, trust worthy & confidential.

A lot of young people would only declare;"he is my fiance" alone
vice-a-vice" but what they do in that relationship they keep, to themselves & still pretend to be up-thigh t & clean.

You need people to guide & direct you so you don't fall off-the-track.

Don't deceive yourself, you can't know it all. Just in-case you are thinking in that line/:)

To the counselors; 

The reason people won't want to be true & open is the fear of condemnation & exposure
& so...
please & please don't pretend to be a saint when dealing with such cases. Don't condemn, don't castigate & don't find an indirect way to share with public because when you do, u will force whoever came to you back into their shell & maybe never to open up again.

I heard somebody say;
"there are no OR very few virgins",
They say this obviously because they are or were once engaged in sexual relationships themselves, which makes them conclude that every other person is involved in it as well.

(people pretend so they can condemn others.).
Such counselor, *run* from them because they are capable of making you leave, feeling worse than you the way you felt before you went to them.

Even the Bible says "to him that is pure all things are pure..." Titus 1:15

& Most time what we do is not far from the things we say...

To be cont..